confidence

The Day I Became Comfortable in My Own Skin

My key message is that its not what you are called that matters , but what you answer to. Your identity in life is not defined by your blemishes, but the inner glory of your personality

I was barely 5 years old in 1981. I was at a preschool. I was afflicted with eczema so my skin was all spots. There was a house adjoined to the school fence, which had a peach tree. We went as a group of kids to get peaches over the fence. As I stretched out to ask for some peaches, a small boy who was hardly older than me said, “ I wont give you any because you have skin spots”

Boy was I gutted. My confidence took such a dive. However as I was to reflect over the next few days, I decided that I was not going to be defined by a blemish on my skin. No a thousand times no!

This incident has helped me to be more confident about who I am. The labels of others do not have an impact on me. Importantly I learnt that its not what you are called that matters but what you answer to – I answer to greatness. Through all seasons of life – the winter, the summer, autumn and spring – I now listen to the ‘great within’. I have learnt to live my life under the quiet approval of God than the noisy applause of others.

I am now comfortable in my own skin. This is the message I bring to many others. Today I am in a place where I use my voice, heart, hands and head to help others find their own voice. When one’s identity is secure, then the destiny is sure.

Don’t Crowdsource Your Problems: Shut The Door

I know this post is a bit unconventional. Well the conventional does not always work. I was reflecting early this morning about how sometimes we need to shut the door. A simple story in the Bible about a woman whose only child died comes to mind. The death of the child is not the big story. The big story is her response.

A response is different from a reaction. This was her response:

“The child died …and she went up, and laid him on the bed…and shut the door …” 2 Kings 4:21

The child (dream/vision) died. The woman SHUT the door. She did not tell anybody, all she said was, “It is well” The prophet Elisha arrived to pray for the dead child:

“…Elisha came… the child was dead…He went in therefore, and shut the door …and prayed unto the Lord” 2 Kings 4:32-33

Things happen in our lives – loss, death, sickness, debt, retrenchment, demotion, dismissal or divorce. Do you respond or react? How you respond makes a huge difference.

There are some points to learn from this story:

1.       Don’t take it to the PHONE, take it to the THRONE

2.    Don’t look for a PITY PARTY look for a FAITH PARTY. Pity sympathises, Faith empathises

3.       Pity cries with you. Faith stops your tears

4.       Pity says “oh SORRY!” Faith says “oh GLORY!”

Today I want to encourage you. Just shut the door. God hears! Whatever you are going through today shut the door and just say  ” IT IS WELL”

If I Were A Boy …Not Just For A Day

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Disclaimer: This blog article bears no resemblance to Beyonce’s song not in the spirit or the letter….now read on.

I bet you almost trashed this blog before reading on. If you have just read this sentence you are doing so well…read on.

Let me take you back to the past – the year is 1980…am still a young boy. I think my father’s Peugeout 404 station wagon is the best car in the world. We live a simple house and I think we are in a mansion. Having chicken and rice once in a month is a big deal. Wearing my Sunday best crowns my wonderful week. Life is great. Life is simple. When my older siblings give me the crust slice of the bread – it’s an act of great favour – and I must be so thankful. I believe that my mother is my guardian angel – if I trip myself, she faults the stone, if I cut myself, she blames the knife. Life is beautiful…life is simple. All things are possible.

Oh the simplicity of being a boy.

Fast forward, 2014. Things must make sense first before I can do them. How we complicate our lives. If God wanted us complicated, He would have created us confused. He created us simple – made us in His likeness so we would never be confused about our identity. He gave us the measure of faith so all things would be possible.  He gift-wrapped us in hope so all things would work.  He gave us the gift of love so all things would be beautiful.

This is the simplicity of life as God created it. Let the girl and boy in you come out. Keep it simple. Believe the incredible, hope beyond what you see and love without reservation. Life is simple.

Lessons to reflect on:

  1. Life is simple, don’t complicate it
  2. All things are possible
  3. Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication
  4. Have the faith of a child

Have an awesome day and remember simple does it!

Time for A Life Facelift & Uplift : Arise & Shine!

“There was a woman present, so TWISTED and BENT OVER with arthritis that she couldn’t even LOOK UP. She had been afflicted with this for eighteen years. When Jesus saw her, he called her over. “Woman, you’re free!” He laid hands on her and suddenly she was STANDING STRAIGHT and TALL giving GLORY to God” Luke 13:11-13 (MSG)

It’s a beautiful Sunday morning. You may be going through an ugly situation or dealing with a challenging matter. It doesn’t matter – God can deal with any matter. The condition might have gone on for years. So what? There is no condition beyond the grace of God to deal with. It’s time to know the following liberating truths:

1. Jesus makes the twisted financial, marital, business, work, relationship, health situations straight
2. If you are bending over under the weight of challenges today you are free.
3. The indignity and shame of your situation is taken away – you can now LOOK UP . You have a FACELIFT now.
4. Where you came short, Jesus has given you an UPLIFT – you can stand tall again

Declare this:

I have a major facelift and uplift. Every shame has been replaced with fame. I can rise and shine above the crushing weight of inadequacy, guilty and shame.

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